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The women of Ireland have always deserved better | Her.ie

This week marked the release of the investigative report into Ireland’s Mother and Baby Homes.

The report, revealed on Tuesday, detailed the lives of the women and children who lived in 18 homes from 1922 to 1998, the abandonment they experienced after becoming pregnant outside of marriage, the isolation they were subjected to through no fault of their own.

He also placed blame on society and those who shunned these women in their time of need, who rejected the possibility of support. “This should have been forthcoming from fathers, family, and friends, their community, and their State,” he said, “but so often was not.”

“We embraced the perverse religious morality and control. We had a warped attitude to sexuality and intimacy. We honoured piety but failed to show even basic kindness to those who needed it most.”

And while Martin’s words ring true they are not without circumstance, for what society would send its vulnerable women to Church-run institutions if not for the weight of the Church on its shoulders? And what State would remain complacent to rampant misogyny if not for the expectation that they would be backed near completely?

Aoife P.Rafter A poem at the Tuam Bon Secours site, photo by Charles McQuillan

For too long Ireland relied on the teachings of Catholicism to stunt its growth. Aversions to pre-marital sex, contraception, abortion, same-sex-marriage, and divorce dominated Irish society for almost a century, telling families what was right, what was wrong, and what would happen to you if you didn’t play along.

It appears that they didn’t, with many reporting feeling totally shamed into silence and desperate to hide away, forced into the only space that would take them, quietly.

It’s a forceful silence that even now continues to rear its head. Catherine Corless, the historian who discovered the bodies of almost 800 babies buried in a mass grave in Tuam, has spoken publicly of locals who pleaded that the matter be left alone, that the truth remain buried.

Corless, whose research came to light in 2014, said that once the story went national, she was contacted by members of the Bon Secours order who told her that she had upset some of the nuns.

We can blame our ancestors, and we can blame ourselves, but are we then deflecting blame from those who deserve it most? Are we securing the horrors of the Mother and Baby Homes to a past time, to a society and a leadership fundamentally different to our own? Are we saying that that was then, but this is now?

Many commentators have said that it is hard to hear Martin’s speech, read the Mother and Baby Homes report, consider the pain caused by these institutions, and not be reminded of those living in Direct Provision.

Right now there are over 7,000 people currently living in the asylum seekers system, the average time spent there being two years. 30% of those living there are children, who in the past have spoken of feeling “unsafe” in the immensely overcrowded system.

The government last year announced its plans to end Direct Provision, but the system expected to replace it has yet be founded and the exact time frame of this abolition is not yet known.

Ireland has a history of abandoning its women. Damning examples of rejection, stigma, and exile have plagued us throughout the last century and beyond, as we are consistently reminded of another State failing, another family torn apart, another life ruined.

In the 21st century alone we have seen the CervicalCheck scandal, we have heard the stories of those forced to travel for abortions, we have learned of the pain suffered by so many silenced voices finally coming to the light.

It was only 22 years ago that the last Mother and Baby Home was closed in Ireland. Two years before that, the last Magdalene Laundry shut its doors.

Irish women deserve better here and now, but they deserved better long before we were talking about it too.

Feature image by Charles McQuillan via Getty. 

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